Show Your Favorite Book Some Love – Bingo Edition!

Last week, my friend Emily Conrad posted a Bingo card titled “Show Your Favorite Authors Some Love” and challenged everyone to claim a row. It’s a good card, but it seemed as if a few things were still missing.

Me: If I did a personalized grid, it would say things like “Take book to church and foist it on an unsuspecting friend” and “Turn favorite dialogue snippets into a musical, which you sing to yourself and others until they ask you to please stop.”

Emily: I would LOVE to see the official Ruth Buchanan version of this card!

CHALLENGE ACCEPTED.

Copy of Writer Bingo

I have done some of these but still aspire to complete an entire row. If you win a row, definitely film everything you do and post online so that we can all make fun of you enjoy.

Also so we can learn about the book you love.

Because that’s definitely what this is all about.

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How do you talk up books you love? Have you found any successful techniques that don’t involve skywriting or potential public embarrassment? Spill in the comments below.

In other news, I’m pleased to have become a contributing writer at Faith Beyond Fear. My first post, When I Run from My Fears, went live this morning. Come by, say hello, and check out the site. Thanks to Alynda Long for the work she does and for reaching out.

If you get behind-the-scenes e-mails, you’re already aware that my book The Proper Care and Feeding of Singles is featured this week as an Amazon Kindle Countdown Deal. That means the book is on sale for $.99 from now until June 14, 2018. This is a great time to snap it up! (It’s also a great time to opt in for e-mail alerts. Don’t let the algorithm keep us apart!)

Happy Monday, everyone! May your coffee be as strong as your workload.

4 Reasons to Persevere in Running Even if You’re Bad at It

When I first started running a few years ago, I was really bad at it. Even now, I’m still only mediocre. Yet I persevere. I have four good reasons for doing so.

Reason 1: It’s a Quick Calorie Burn

This is the main reason why I took up running in the first place. As a writer who spends a fair amount of time in a computer chair, I need regular exercise. Running is quick, effective, and a cheap alternative to the gym, since the streets don’t charge me monthly fees to run them.

Reason 2: No One Punches Me in the Face

Before I took up running, I trained in boxing and kickboxing. Our coach eventually moved out of state, however. The class disbanded, I stopped sparring, and working out now no longer involves the danger of dropping my guard and walking directly into someone’s glove. I can say with some confidence that even a bad run beats getting punched in the face.

Reason 3: I Don’t Have to Be Good 

I’m not out to impress anybody, bring home trophies, or even beat my own personal records. In short, I’m not in it to win it. My goal with every race, every run, and every training session is the same.

“You don’t have to be good,” I tell myself. “You just have to finish.”

The funny thing is, though, I am getting better; but it’s not because I’m pushing myself or following some slick training program. I keep showing up, and the consistency pays off.

Reason 4: The Struggle Is Worth It

Running is difficult. Everything about it is a struggle. In the end, however, it’s worth it.

I feel the same way about my writing. It’s a struggle from beginning to end, and none of those daily writing sessions feel important or impressive. I keep showing up at the keyboard, day in and day out. I plonk down on my computer chair, open a manuscript, and give myself my daily pep talk.

“You don’t have to be good. You just have to finish.”

And, eventually, I do.

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Training sessions and first drafts don’t have to be impressive to prove effective. They just have to be done!

Is there something you’ve been wanting to try but have been too intimidated or too afraid to start? Share in the comments below. Is there something you’ve finally started that you’d been putting off? Tell us all about it so that we can cheer you on.

You also may enjoy seeing how I worked some boxing and kickboxing exploits into my debut novel, Collapsible: A Novel of Friendship, Broken Bones, Coffee, Shenanigans, and the Occasional Murder.

Happy Monday, everybody! May your coffee be stronger than your yawns.

5 Myths About My Single Life

My book on singleness and the church released in November of 2017, and since then, I’ve had increased opportunity to discuss my single life. I’ve recognized the need to dispel some myths.

Myth 1 – My single life is inherently lonely.

Yes, single people tend to spend more time alone than their married counterparts. But single living needn’t be inherently lonely. As a matter of fact, many singles find that they have more time to invest in meaningful friendships. I know I do.

Myth 2 – I must not have heard of internet dating.

Of course I have. I’ve also heard of all the other ways singles meet, and I’ve tried most of them. While I’m very happy for your cousin Theresa who met her husband online, that doesn’t mean it will automatically happen for me. As of 2015, though 40 million Americans were signed up for online dating, only 7% of marriages that year were between couples who met through dating apps, and apparently a woman’s “desirability” online peaks at age 21. So let’s moderate our expectations on this one.

Myth 3 – You should downplay your happy marriage so as not to hurt my feelings.

It brings me great joy to see my friends delighting in their marriages. If you’re in a successful committed relationship, shout it to the skies and give glory to God for richly blessing you!

Myth 4 – I experience consistent emotions about my singleness.

Honestly, my feelings fluctuate. Although I’ve reached a measure of contentment with my situation, I don’t feel obligated to maintain a veneer of fake positivity at all times. Sometimes I have a down night and need to sit under a fuzzy blanket rereading the love letter from Jane Austen’s Persuasion while blubbering into my mug of ginger tea, and I don’t care who knows it.

Myth 5 – I’m the spokesperson for all Christian singles.

The word my in the title of this post was chosen very specifically.

I absolutely cannot speak for every single person–not even for every single Christian woman. Everyone’s single life is a bit different, and while I can address broad principles, I’m still only speaking for myself. Background, personality, goals, geography, culture, age, family dynamics, careers, and so many more factors contribute to differences, both large and small. It’s one of the reasons I surveyed and interviewed hundreds of Christian singles before I wrote my book.

I’ve known joyful older singles who have never married; confused single-agains who have survived devastating divorces; older, freshly widowed singles re-learning how to cook for one; eager twentysomethings already wondering if they’ll be single forever. All have different spiritual, emotional, and relational needs.

One of the best ways to serve your single friends, then, is to build relationships with them, learning to serve them well by applying your own unique spiritual gifts to their individual needs.

As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace: whoever speaks, as one who speaks oracles of God; whoever serves, as one who serves by the strength that God supplies—in order that in everything God may be glorified through Jesus Christ. 1 Peter 4:10-11.

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I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you’re single, add more myths you’d like to dispel. If you’re married, tell us how you’re loving and serving your single friends. Share in the comments below–and share this post with a friend who might relate!

Happy Monday, everyone! May your coffee be strong, your day productive, and your fellowship sweet.

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For more on The Proper Care and Feeding of Singles, see here.

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Expectation, Reality, and Hope

Recently, a former student of mine found a typo in a book. Normally this would thrill me. I love seeing my students apply what they’ve learned–especially post-graduation. This time was different, however. This time the book was mine.

“I found a typo in your book.”

Her comment sparked an inner war.

Obviously, I make no mistakes; therefore, she must be wrong. But she can’t be wrong. She’s my student. She knows her stuff. To doubt her is to doubt the quality of her English education, which I can’t do. I was her English education. Besides, I want to be proud of her. In a small way, she’s an outflow of me. But so is my book.

Moments like these underscore two basic truths. First, we desire perfection. Because we’re made in the image of a perfect God, we keenly feel the tension between that desire and the reality of our lives. We are completely incapable of the perfection we require. Every day, in incalculable ways, we fall short.

I’m not just talking here about sin, although that’s also true. I’m talking more about faulty memories, missed turns, slips of the tongue, and yes–even typos.

What do we do when we’re forced to confront our own inadequacy?

We thank God that once, there was a Person who held it together. Though he suffered the same human frailty we battle every day, he surpassed expectations, ushered in a new reality, and is our source of hope.

Since then we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus, the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. – Hebrews 4:14-16

Without the hope of mercy and grace found in Jesus, the frustration and shame of our own inadequacy would crush us.

Fortunately, because Christ was perfect, we don’t have to be. He freed us from the frustration of trying to meet an impossible standard.

Our hearts can rest in him.

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For more information on my books, see here. To read along and check for typos, see here.

What’s the best/worst typo that you’ve ever found in a book or–perish the thought!–caught in your own work? Feel free to share in the comments below.

Happy Monday, everybody!

When Life Has Continuity Issues

Recently I stumbled across a list I’d scribbled in one of my writing notebooks while editing my first trilogy. At the top of one page, in giant loopy (and–let’s face it–slightly manic) handwriting are two words: CONTINUITY ISSUES!

In crafting fiction, continuity issues crop up for a number of reasons. The most common reasons include late-date tweaks to a plot or a character that are inevitable and yet frustrating because they nearly always require total book (or, in my case, total series) checks to ensure that the story still hangs together as a unified whole. This is a time-consuming process, but a relatively simple one. Once I root through my manuscripts and make the necessary changes, no one is the wiser–except perhaps my editor, who either approved the changes or suggested them in the first place.

jess-watters-519012-unsplashThough I occasionally offer justification or pushback against editorial changes, I know deep down that there’s no way I can be objective about my writing. I’ve spent too much time with my nose buried in the page to see the big picture clearly, and my insane emotional attachment to the time I’ve invested in certain sections unduly influences me to champion them even when they add little overall value. That’s why as a writer, I’ve learned to trust my editors. Although the process is sometimes painful, each edit is a kindness.

In life, I also have an Editor. He’s constantly reworking the narrative, adjusting my story goals, adding and subtracting characters, and tweaking the timeline. When I recognize this happening, I have two options: I can try to superimpose my will over His, or I can learn to trust his firm editorial hand.

A man’s heart plans his way,
But the Lord directs his steps.
(Proverbs 16:9 NKJV)